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Closure

“Tell her why. At least give her the chance to have feelings about it. For god’s sake!”

– Meredith Grey, Grey’s Anatomy Season 2 Episode 2

Sabi dito ENTJ daw personality ko. Sabi rin “ENTJs desire closure in their lives, wanting to make conclusions about things or people quickly.” AWOW! I’m not one to easily believe these online quizzes and tests but I have consistently gotten an ENTJ result the past few years. (I used to be ENFP.)

Anyway, the point is… apparently, I need closure. Personality test and diagnosis aside, yes, I am that person. It took me almost five years to get over my first love. And he wasn’t even my boyfriend. We just had an on and off thing. I moved on because I got the closure I wanted. We didn’t really part ways. Rather, he got himself a girlfriend. And yes, brave old me was calm and collected. I maintained my friendship with the guy. And his girlfriend. HUWOW! That started a pattern in all my relationships which I terribly regret now.

So how did I get the closure I wanted? I asked for it. Some four or five years after he got himself a girlfriend, we met up for dinner. And I asked all the questions I wanted to ask and got the answers I had to hear. And there you go, I was finally over him. More recently, I have had the same experience. Even if it was clear for a long time that me and this ex were never ever gonna be together, I was not able to move on. Not necessarily because I still wanted to be with him, I just really needed him to apologize, to tell me his reasons, to give answers that I think I deserve. And there you go, I am finally ok and we can finally be truly friends.

But this does not happen often. People leave without so much as a good bye. At eto ako… basang-basa sa ulan, walang masisilungan, walang malalapitan. Wait… well, it seems a bit that way. When somebody chooses somebody else or leaves me, or just cuts off ties for whatever reason, I seem like a lost child. Like I don’t know what to do and where to go. Iniwan sa ere. Ain’t such a great feeling. And FML! It happens to me all the time.

Piolo (and I) deserve an explanation.
Piolo (and I) deserve an explanation.

Eto na naman ako… paulit-ulit na lang. Sabi nga sa kanta nila Piolo at Sarah G (totally different movie, BTW), “Paano ba ang magmahal? Palagi bang nasasaktan? Umiiyak na lang palagi, Gusto ko nang lumisan.” Sakit beh. Minsan (and most recently), di pa nga ako nagmahal, like pa nga lang… thumbs up pa nga lang, di pa napusuan, nasaktan na. OUCH! Sakit, beh.

Once again, I am like a lost child. Pero eto ang maganda, with the help of my friends, nagka-epiphany ako. YES! After 34 years of existence and 21 years of liking, loving, investing emotions, and ending up heartbroken and lost, ETO NA BEH! Natuto rin ang puso kong tanga.
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The Achy Breaky Hearts

‘Di ako masyadong iyaking kapag nanonood ng mga pelikula. Pero yung “The Achy Breaky Hearts,” hindi pa lumalabas yung title card naluha na ako. Pak na pak ang intro. #ICanRelate sa linyang ito…

“Hindi naman sa kailangan na may kasama umuwi, kumain o matulog. Masarap lang din siguro kung meron. Di ba?” – The Achy Breaky Hearts

BOOM! PAK! GANERN! Doon sa “Di ba?” buhos na ang tears. Ang ganda ng pagkakasulat ng intro ng pelikula. Parang pwede kong sabihin na para sa akin yung pelikula. Tama ang desisyon ko na panoorin yun mag-isa.

Tapos halos buong pelikula naluha-luha lang ako kahit nakakatawa naman. Kasheh tagos sa buto mga beh. Yung masaya ka naman na single ka pero tongenuh yun, masaya kayang kiligin. Yung kahit na buo ka naman at di mo naman talaga kailangan ng kasama sa kung ano at kung saan pero pag naiisip mong paano nga kung meron?

Ria Jose
Chinggay, ako ba ikaw? Ikaw ba ako? Nakaka-relate ako beh. #TeamSingle

‘Yon eh… doon tayo sa mga what ifs tinatamaan. The film shows us how we can be happy being single yet still yearn for something more. Yung kumpleto ang buhay mo pero di mo mapigilang isipin na baka mas masaya ka kapag may kapares ka. Palagay ko ganun din yung mga taken. Masaya naman silang may kapares pero minsan napapatanong din na baka mas masaya kapag single. Ika nga “the grass is always greener on the other side.”
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The One Where I Ask The One You Love or… Podcast

The Feb-ibig Love and Hugot podcast series continues with this!

This episode is inspired by Jexx Hinggo‘s snap and FB post: “The one who loves you or the one you love?”

In the podcast, I share my friends and followers’ answers and I share my own hugot experience, as well. Do listen. But don’t judge. Haha!
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The One About Lies Our Exes Told Us Podcast

OLAAA! Happy Feb-ibig, everybody!

All podcasts from now to February 14 will be all about love, relationships, break ups, bitternesseses, and hugotses. So whether you’re taken or single, there’s something for you.

The first installment for Feb-ibig 2016 is from a post I saw on Facebook. The post asks: “Name a lie your ex told.” Let the hugotses pour out. Do comment and share your answers and questions. And do suggest a topi for future Love and Hugot podcasts.

And oh, please do visit our Valentine’s Bake Sale for a Cause entitled “LOVE and HUGOT: Desserts will never break your heart.” More details on this soon. Meantime, like our event page at this LINK.

An Invitation to #TeamSingle

Ria Jose in La Union
Ria Jose in La Union

“You seem embarrassed by loneliness, by being alone. It’s only a place to start.” -Irene, Sabrina (1995)

Two of the things that really made my 2015 remarkable were the SmartBro Trips I joined, one to La Union and another to Ilocos. I took the La Union Trip alone which was quite exciting. It was not my first trip alone but it was exciting to be going somewhere new with a group of strangers. I had an awesome experience with newfound friends. One thing though, I had crappy photos of myself. See proof above.

I was excited about the next tour, dubbed as Photoholic Ilocos. After all, Ilocos had a lot of places perfect for taking photos. Plus, I was traveling with friends.

Days before I was to leave for the Ilocos tour I was browsing through my social media feeds and saw some of my friends with beautiful shots in Ilocos. But most, if not all, of their shots were couple shots. This gave me an idea for our Photoholic Ilocos Tour, have couple shots alone.

Ria Jose at the path to the Kapurpurawan Rock Formation
Ria Jose invites to you a journey with #TeamSingle

My first post is obviously inspired by Murad Osmann’s series of photos of his girlfriend leading him around the world.

This is just one of the many alone shots I had while in Ilocos. Through this photo, I am inviting you to join my journey as a member of #TeamSingle. Alone but never lonely.
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