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Move On Mo Mukha Mo!

Sinasabi mong wala kang pakialam kasi di ka naman direktang apektado ng Martial Law. Eh kung gayon, tongenuh! Bakit ka pa nag-effort magpost tungkol doon? Wag kang papansin. Kung talagang wala kang pakialam, tahimik na lang.

Sinasabi mong move on na kami. Eh ikaw nga nangingialam ka sa di namin pag move on, kami pa kaya na nawalan ng magulang? Tongenuh mo!

Sinasabi mong magpatawad na kami. Paano magpapatawad ang taong di hiningan ng tawad? Paano magpapatawad kung patuloy na dine-deny ng mga may sala ang kanilang mga krimen? Paano magpapatawad kung maraming nagsasabing hindi totoo at hindi lehitimo ang sakit na nararamdaman namin? Tongenuh mo!

Sinasabi mong legal ang nangyari. Eh tongenuh! Paano na yung pag-aresto, pambubugbog, pagkawala, at pagkamatay ng libo-libong Pilipino, ano na?! Legal ba yun?! Tongenuh! Move on kami doon pero kayo di kayo matahimik kasi ayaw namin ipalibing ang isang kriminal?! Move on kami kahit na pinatay ang mahal naminsa buhay pero kayo di kayo makapag move on dahil di malibing ang isang kriminal? PAKYU PO!!! PAYASO AMPOTAH!!!

Sinasabi mong marami siyang nagawang tama at mabuti. Eh tongenuh mo! Dahil ba nakagawa ng mabuti peke na lahat ng pagnanakaw, pagkitil sa demokrasya, pagpatay, at panggago sa sambayanang Pilipino?!

Sinasabi mong kasalanan to ng ibang tao dahil nanggago rin sila. Tongenuh!!! Pag ikaw binugbog, magiging ok lang ba sayo yun dahil ang ibang tao may binugbog din na ibang tao? Kagaguhan!!! Hindi dahil may nagawang mali ang ibang tao eh ok na yung may libo-libong Pilipino ang inaresto, binugbog, at pinatay?

BAGO NIYO KAMING SABIHAN NA MOVE ON NA KAMI, BIGYAN NIYO KAMI NG HUSTISYA! IBALIK NIYO ANG KABATAAN KO! IBALIK NIYO ANG KALAYAAN NG MGA MAGULANG KO! IBALIK NIYO ANG BUHAY NG LIBO-LIBONG PILIPINONG NAMATAY. BAWIIN NIYO ANG SAKIT NA NARAMDAMAN NG LIBO-LIBONG PILIPINONG BINUGBOG! IBALIK NIYO ANG BILYONG PISO NA NANAKAW SA MAMAMAYANG PILIPINO! IPAKITA NIYO ANG LIBO-LIBONG DESEPARACIDOS! ANO NA?! Emote na emote kayo kasi di mailibing ang isang mandarambong pero kami bawal kami magalit at humingi ng hustisya. PAKYU PO!

Give us back our innocence. Give us back a childhood free of fear. Give me back a healthy, whole family. Give me back my father. Give me back everything I lost and never had. Kaya niyo bang ibigay sa akin yun? Kaya niyo bang ibigay yan sa libo-libong Pilipinong naging biktima ng Martial Law, sa kanilang mga anak at mga kamag-anak?

Hanggang hindi namin nakakamit ang hustisya, hanggang may mga taong patuloy na di inaamin ang katotohanan tungkol sa Martial Law, walang sino mang makakapagsabi na move on na kami. Dahil tongenuh niyo… kung hindi ipinaglaban ng mga bayani at martir ng Martial Law ang ating kalayaan, tayong lahat walang karapatang ihayag ang kahit na anong gusto nating ihayag. Kung hindi sila nagsakripisyo, we will all continue to live in fear and squalor.

Di kita pinipigilang magpakamangmang, tanga, bulag, at bobo. Kaya tongenuh, WAG MO RIN AKONG PIGILAN AT PAKIALAMAN NA MAGALIT, HUMINGI NG HUSTISYA, AT IPAHAYAG ANG AKING NARARAMDAMAN!

Tongenuh mo. Pakyu. Wala akong pakialam kung gusto mong maniwala sa mga gusto mong paniwalaan. Truth is whether you believe it or not, THOUSANDS OF FILIPINOS suffered under Martial Law and you have no effin right to tell us we have no right to be hurt or angry.

Hindi kita pinipigilan sa pagiging tanga, bobo, at insensitive mo. Choice mo maging ganyan. Ako choice kong ipaglaban ang mga ipinaglaban ng mga magulang ko. Choice ko maghanap ng hustisya. Choice kong ipaglaban ang katotohanan. Choice ko na patuloy ipaglaban ang demokrasiya para sa akin, para sa bawat Pilipino… pati na rin para sayo na patuloy na nagpo-post at nakikipaglaban para sa mga maling bagay.

Binuwis ng Papa ko at ng libo-libong Pilipino ang buhay nila para malaya mong paniwalaan ang kahit na anong potang inang katangahan ang gusto mong paniwalan at ipaglaban. Kaya WAG MO AKONG PAKIALAMAN KUNG DI AKO MAKAPAG-MOVE ON AT PATULOY KONG IPINAGLALABAN ANG KARAPATAN MONG MAGING MALAYA.

DON’T ME!!!

With the girls

Being Better

Many days, weeks, and months ago, I suffered a betrayal that I thought I could never move past beyond. It cost me a lot of things… confidence in myself, trust in others, and “friends.” Every time I’d encounter a milestone or a reminder of that painful moment, I’d lose all my confidence once again, and paranoia and self-pity would set in. I have tried so hard to avoid those moments and to keep to myself, to hide my pain and sorrow only to be witnessed by me alone.

Today is one of those days. I fear that I will break down and wallow in self-pity. Once again, I want to just keep to myself and have my own pity party but I had made a promise. I will be there, I will face the reality of what had happened, of how my best laid plans had failed despite my earnest and sincere efforts.

I don’t know why I made the promise to be there but I did and I will fulfill it, not just for the people who stayed true and loyal to me but for myself. I have to do it for me. If I kept to myself and just nursed my pain and sorrow alone, it would not do me any good.
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A Lesson on Leadership from Jiro

I finally watched Jiro Dreams of Sushi. I was moved and inspired by the film. I had wanted to write an extensive blog post about it but I am at loss for words. Instead, here’s an insight on leadership which was reinforced by the movie: “Lead by example.”

I have heard it and read it many times and I believe in it but never have I seen it so succinctly displayed as by sushi master Jiro Ono. He is disciplined, dedicated, and committed that even his suppliers don’t care about gaining profit and selling, they just want to be part of his success.

He shows up for work everyday, ready and committed to elevating his craft. No matter how successful he is, he sticks to his routine and never loses the thirst for excellence. He competes not with others but with himself. He shows his apprentices and his sons the kind of discipline and passion that would make them succeed.
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Ria Jose 2014

31 and Single

Nobody really asked for this topic but I’m a bit intoxicated and I can’t sleep so what the hell, right? After all, love and relationships are the easiest and hardest things to talk about. Easy because we can all relate to it somehow. Or at least, the lack of it. And hard because it all really doesn’t make sense.

So here I am. 31 and single. One of things I often get asked (luckily, not so much by my relatives) is why I’m single. The answer? I don’t know. I’d like to think there’s really nothing wrong with me. So let’s examine my past relationships, instead.

My first boyfriend (who was not my first love, by the way) was one huge mistake. I’d rather not talk about the guy since we’re friends but let’s just say I went into the relationship just because. It was a long distance relationship and I felt like it was really not a big investment. While I did mourn the breaking up part, the relationship and the break up didn’t really take much of my time or emotions. Our usual nights would go like this…

BF: What you doing?
Ria: Playing DotA. DND.

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Finding My Voice

“Every child, woman and man should possess licence to speak or sing in his or her true voice.”

– Joyce Maynard, At Home in the World (Picador USA)

Today is my 10th Anniversary as a blogger. And that quote is the one I shared from my first blog post. Here’s a screen capture:

First entry of Life with Ria on LJ
First entry of Life with Ria on LJ

and here’s the link. And here’s the full resolution copy of the screen capture: LINK.

Then and now, blogging has been a fulfillment of my dream to write… attempts at getting my thoughts, feelings, and ideas out into the world. Not because I think people can learn from me or that I have something profound to share but because I really just want to write, to speak, to share.
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Pablo’s Effects Still Felt by Survivors

It has been one year since Typhoon Pablo (Bopha) hit the provinces of Compostela Valley, Davao Oriental, and Davao del Norte but its effects are still greatly felt by survivors. Classified as a Category 5 Typhoon, Typhoon Pablo struck on December 4, 2013. It affected over 6 million Filipinos and over 2,000 were left dead or are still missing.

Image by Anj Nacorda of AnjNacorda.com
Kinablangan, Baganga, Davao Oriental
Image by Anj Nacorda of AnjNacorda.com.

Save the Children is an organization focused on giving children “what every child deserves – a healthy start, the opportunity to learn and protection from harm.” They have been on site for many months now and they assert that there has to be an increase in support to help families fully recover the impact of Typhoon Pablo on their livelihood.
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