Closure

"Tell her why. At least give her the chance to have feelings about it. For god’s sake!” – Meredith Grey, Grey’s Anatomy Season 2 Episode 2 Sabi dito ENTJ daw personality ko. Sabi rin "ENTJs desire closure in their lives, wanting to make conclusions about things or people quickly." AWOW! I'm not one to easily believe these online quizzes and tests but I have consistently gotten an ENTJ result the past few years. (I used to be ENFP.) Anyway, the point is... apparently, I need closure. Personality test and diagnosis aside, yes, I am that person. It took me almost five years to get over my first love. And he wasn't even my boyfriend. We just had an on and off thing. I moved on because I got the closure I wanted. We didn't really part ways. Rather, he got himself a girlfriend. And yes, brave old me was calm and collected. I maintained my friendship with the guy. And his girlfriend. HUWOW! That started a pattern in all my relationships which I terribly regret now. So how did I get the closure I wanted? I asked for it. Some four or five years after he got himself a girlfriend,…

The One About Lies Our Exes Told Us Podcast

OLAAA! Happy Feb-ibig, everybody! All podcasts from now to February 14 will be all about love, relationships, break ups, bitternesseses, and hugotses. So whether you're taken or single, there's something for you. The first installment for Feb-ibig 2016 is from a post I saw on Facebook. The post asks: "Name a lie your ex told." Let the hugotses pour out. Do comment and share your answers and questions. And do suggest a topi for future Love and Hugot podcasts. And oh, please do visit our Valentine's Bake Sale for a Cause entitled "LOVE and HUGOT: Desserts will never break your heart." More details on this soon. Meantime, like our event page at this LINK.

Ria Jose 2014

31 and Single

Nobody really asked for this topic but I'm a bit intoxicated and I can't sleep so what the hell, right? After all, love and relationships are the easiest and hardest things to talk about. Easy because we can all relate to it somehow. Or at least, the lack of it. And hard because it all really doesn't make sense. So here I am. 31 and single. One of things I often get asked (luckily, not so much by my relatives) is why I'm single. The answer? I don't know. I'd like to think there's really nothing wrong with me. So let's examine my past relationships, instead. My first boyfriend (who was not my first love, by the way) was one huge mistake. I'd rather not talk about the guy since we're friends but let's just say I went into the relationship just because. It was a long distance relationship and I felt like it was really not a big investment. While I did mourn the breaking up part, the relationship and the break up didn't really take much of my time or emotions. Our usual nights would go like this... BF: What you doing? Ria: Playing DotA. DND. or this...…

A Close Encounter with the Ex

Last Sunday, the most important tournament in my poker life was going to take place. Imagine working hard for and anticipating a tournament for three months. It was supposed to be intense and stressful. Surprisingly, I was calm and relaxed. Until... I saw my ex walk in. GAAAAH! Let's call him ex-R. We have had an agreement that he would try to inform me everytime he would go someplace I would probably be in and I would do the same. Needless to say, his early evening visit to the poker club came without a warning. He only visited the poker club on early evenings when we dated. More surprisingly, his gf was not with him. GAAAAH! WHY?! WHY?! WHY?! So I became distracted and as poker players would say, I was on tilt. We are friends, my ex and I. In fact, we would sometimes send SMS to each other to ask or consult about work-related stuff. But, I was caught off-guard. And yes, I was shocked by how much I was affected by his presence. You know what was even more disturbing? He was seated and played beside another guy I dated whom we shall refer to as ex-A.…

Miss Statement

Dahil ako na... ang mahilig mag-emote and mag-drama with my boys, boylets, exes, and other eklavu. At dahil gusto kong talbugan sina Catherine, Scarlet, Isadora, at ang bonggang-bonggang sina Madam Claudia Buenavista at Amor Powers, here are some of the lines I have uttered IN REAL LIFE in the recent past... Boy: I'm sorry, I can't take this kind of drama. Ria: I hope you won't regret letting me go. Ria: What do you want? Do you want me turn back time so you'd meet me first? Because I would if I could. Boy: I'm really sorry. Ria: Madali lang naman akong kausap. You don't want me enough? I'll move on the next guy. Boy: Good night! Ria: Is it presumptuous to think you like me? Coz I know you do. Boy:... Boy: I'm turned off by aggressive girls. Ria: Sorry naman. Pinanganak akong ganito. I can't let things happen to me, I make them happen. Ria: I know you like me. Break up with your girlfriend and I'll instantly be your girlfriend. Boy: I'm sorry I can't let her go. Ria: You want to continue dating her? Ok. You can have her, but I'll also have my other boys.…